Can You Say Yes?

How many of these can you answer yes to?  These are a sample of the 47 or so types of losses we experience in a lifetime, and those losses often have deep running currents that influence the rest of our lives.  Pretty scary when you stop to think about it.




  • Did you move more than twice before the age of 10?
  • Did you ever have a pet die?
  • Did you have early childhood religious training?
  • Have you experienced a major change in financial conditions? (Positive or negative)
  • Have you ever quit a job?  Have you ever been fired?
  • Have you ever been married or divorced?
  • Did you graduate from high school? …from college?
  • Have you ever experienced the death of a close family member?
  • Have you ever experienced the death of a distant family member?
  • Were you physically abused during childhood? …adulthood?
  • Were you sexually abused during childhood? …adulthood?
  • Have you ever been involved with a miscarriage, stillbirth or abortion?
  • Do you have a strained or painful relationship with a living parent, spouse, or friend?
  • Have you ever experienced the loss of the use or function of any part of your body?
  • Have ever experienced the death of a spouse?
  • Are there long stretches of your childhood that you cannot remember?
  • Have you experienced a series of illnesses or accidents?
  • Have you been in a long series of unsuccessful relationships?

Feeling Stuck?      Heartbroken?      Confused?

These are some of the normal reactions to losses we have had in our lives if we never find a way to resolve or complete them.  All those feeling are grief.  Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss.  We grieve for everything.  And unresolved loss is cumulative,  and negatively cumulative.  It drains us of energy and robs us of choices.

You may have been told to believe that:

  • You have to bury sad feelings
  • Time heals all wounds.
  • You should be strong for others.
  • You have to keep busy.
  • It was just God’s will.

Yet the clichés listed above, and the hundreds of other not listed, may have caused you to cover up your normal and natural responses to loss.  The simple truth is that you may not have much helpful information with which to grieve and complete the losses that have occurred in your life.  Consequently, you may have spent, and continue to spend, an inordinate amount of time and energy covering up the painful feelings associated with loss.

This doesn’t have to be!  Join us in workshops designed to help you heal yourself.

Workshops Offered

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  • Moving Beyond Loss – How to move beyond all types of loss.
  • Moving Beyond Divorce – How to dump your relationship baggage and make room for the love of your life.
  • When Children Grieve – For adults wanting to help children deal with divorce, moving or other losses.
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10 Replies to “Can You Say Yes?”

  1. Great piece today. I hope you don’t mind, but I shared it on Twitter and told everyone how wonderful the two of you are, and I mean that from the heart. Love you both! 💖


    1. I think the question about how many can you answer yes to, was rhetorical in nature. It is to make you think about loss, and the grief associated with it. We all experience differing grief in many ways along our life journey, not really recognizing it as such, nor the loss. We carry it like baggage, burdening ourselves until we come to a resolution. Personally, I could answer yes to all but one that Chris listed.


    1. Hi, Laura. Thanks for sharing. I think you’re going to be in the majority, unfortunately. I am so sorry for all the losses you have lived through. I hope that as we add content to this blog, you’ll find comfort and some ideas to help you.


  2. It’s the third year anniversary tomorrow of my dad’s passing so I wrote an article detailing my personal trauma and how I experience grief, I’d love if you could give it a look!


    1. Quinn, thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m just looking at it now, so it will take me a little while to go through it. I’ll probably respond on your blog instead of here.
      I love that you started your post with a picture of you and your dad, and that you have reached out to everyone to share what your experience was. I’m glad you found our blog. You’ve come to a place where people understand.
      Blessings and virtual hugs.

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