Be Human

I think one of the hardest things about dealing with loss is allowing ourselves to feel.  We are so conditioned to be stoic, to not inflict our sorrow on others, to be strong, to stuff things down, but that doesn’t remove the pain.  In fact, it only makes it worse.  It will surface, often when you least expect it and in ways you would never have chosen.

Take a deep breath.  Let it out.  Honor your feelings.

Hugs and blessings!


10 Replies to “Be Human”

  1. I take everything to God in prayer. Years ago I learned the hard way not to discuss my feelings or emotions.

    People whom you think you can trust will let you down.

    Many family members, friends and colleagues plus pets have passed away in the 20+ years since my Mom and Dad died and I have never revealed or spoken my true hurt and sorrow.
    My troubles and tears are between me and Jesus. Only the Lord understands, cares or can comfort.

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      1. On the practical and pragmatic side most jobs only give you five days of funeral leave. Maybe 10 days if your family members died in another country. After those 5 to 10 days you must report back to the job. I don’t know too many people who can afford to take an extended leave of absence from work. One of my coworkers lost his wife to cancer. He returned to the job shortly after the funeral. Why? Because he has a child to support.
        New York does have Paid Family leave Law but you only get 50% of your paycheck. So not only must you return to work but at the same time take care of All the odds and ends left from the person’s death. Settling anyone estate is a job within itself that you must do on your own as the legal representative. Between the job, caring for your family and settling estate functions as the bereaved person you’re last on the list. If this country was more family oriented things would be different. But you deal with life or death as it really is.

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  2. That is completely true. It grows out of us like mossy furry things and I don’t mean the chin hair that suddenly appeared when I turned 50. I felt myself become more achy, I got more headaches, I carried the tension when really all I needed was a good talk.

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