When we work through our losses it can feel like our lives can be too heavy to endure and we often find ourselves overwhelmed with our day to day life. One way Chris and I have found to help on those days is to take a laughter break and just be gentle with ourselves.
Since I had a chronic illness for well over 30 years, Chris and I have found ways of relieving some of the daily stress. One thing we do the hour or two before we go to sleep at night, we don’t watch the TV news since it is usually violent or depressing. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were at least one news station that reported all the good things people do or the funny things that happen in the world? That would be worth watching at nights. We also don’t watch any violent TV shows either. We watch lighthearted shows or comedies. When we go to bed we are fairly content and it helps us get a peaceful night’s rest.
The saying goes “laughter is the best medicine”. Laughter gives us a break from our pain. Laughing at something even for 30 seconds goes a long ways to healing our hearts. Having the ability to laugh tells me that even if I am feeling sad or I am stuck in grief, I’m capable of feeling happy and healthy. That 30 seconds of laughter will soon last for an entire minute.
Here is one of my favorite comedians. I hope you enjoy your laugh break for the day.
Yesterday I was reading something and the author used the word “recollection”. That word struck a chord in me, so I had to look it up. Merriam-Webster says recollection means “tranquility of mind”. That’s how I feel when I think of my history now. I can recollect my losses and I no longer feel the pain or emotions of loss and grief. In fact, it’s quite the opposite of it.
Chris has always been amazed that I have fond memories of childhood. My childhood was not the sort to leave anyone with fond memories. I was very sick as a child. I was molested as a child. I should be still living in the pain of my past, but I’m not.
That’s what I like about doing your own grief work. You can change your past, and by doing so, change your future. Yes, I still remember the bad times I had as a child, but I processed those. I even showed you how I figured out how to process as a very young child, by writing my story of my dog’s death.
This is the promise of the grief work that we do ourselves and that we teach people to do: you can own your entire life and be proud of your life. It’s yours. Every experience you’ve had is what makes you the person you are, strong, compassionate, loving. To do your grief work, you have to let the love back in.
You don’t have to just live in the good and deny the bad. It’s all there. There’s no shame, no regret. The pain disappears. The memories are still there, but your recollection will be “tranquility of mind”.
I took this photo of Chris (upper middle in pink) as she walked along this trail and off into the woods. Life is constantly changing and you can always take that next step and you could be off on an adventure that brings you closer to your dreams.
Just in case you think we’re all about grief and loss and yucky stuff like that, I want to remind you that we have a more normal side to our lives, too. Cee was just interviewed by WordPress as an example of how to create a thriving online community through blogging. Her photography blog is very popular, and is rapidly approaching 1 million views.