We All Were Taught Wrong

I am really beginning to understand that all of us have been incorrectly taught how to deal with death. Since the advent of modern medicine, we have been taught that doctors will save the lives of our loved ones and ourselves. We see our loved ones go through excruciating pain and treatments in the hopes that they will live. And some people do live for many years. However, that is not always the case. But what we have learned in the modern world, is that death is painful, expensive and horrifying. It is something to be feared.

What we have forgotten in our modern world, is that death is a normal and natural part of life. So in turn, grieving is a normal and natural part of our lives. Through the Grief Recovery Method, we learn that grieving is a natural process and that there are some simple steps that we need to do to get back to living our lives.

Working through issues of grief is simple, but not always easy. We learn how to not regret our past actions, we learn how to forgive yourselves for unspoken words we so wanted to express to our loved ones. We learn how to say goodbye to the painful, and sometimes traumatic and hurtful memories.

Through learning this process and following the guidelines, our broken hearts start to heal. We will remember the good times and the bad times. The joy in our lives returns. Admittedly, our lives have obviously changed forever because someone we loved has died, however, we’ll find ourselves more confident and assured as time goes by.

These are a few of the benefits that people get when working through the Grief Recovery Method.  I know it has changed my life forever, for the better.

Hugs, Cee

email: cee@cee-chris.com



One Million

I’m going to take a break from grief for a moment (I heard you sighing!) and put out a personal plea for your help.  Cee is quickly approaching the milestone of having ONE MILLION views on her personal site.  She’s a teacher of photographic composition and runs some of the most popular photography challenges on WordPress.  If you would be so kind, would you please pop over to Cee’s Photography site and look at a few pages?  It will be fun to push her over the million mark.

Thank you!

P.S.  She doesn’t know I’m posting this.  I’m including it as part of my June Joy.

Hugs and smiles!


Grief and Joy

We’re five days into June and I’m still trying to catch up after last week’s laptop melt down.  Should we talk about what happens to us when our electronics die on us?

Before that event, I was writing a post about grief and joy.  When I’m helping people work through the death of a loved one, they are often surprised when I warn them that there will be times when we will laugh together.  In the depths of their pain, they don’t believe it to be possible.  But it is, and it does happen.

Just as we have to allow ourselves to feel the pain of loss, so we also have to be willing to feel the lightness of laughter when it comes.  Staying sad won’t bring anyone back into your life.  But as we take those steps to recovery, smiling, laughing, enjoying life once again are natural outcomes.  And let’s be honest, isn’t that why we’re all here?  To go beyond the loss?

I thought about this topic the other night when some laughter rang out during our support group.  No one gasped, or looked guilty, or stopped the laughter.  We had been tackling some heavy subjects, and it felt good to step back, take a deep breath and crack a joke.

Even if you can’t reach high enough to embrace joy and laughter, you can try for happiness, or calm, or just a quiet moment.  Little changes can add up to big relief.

The other reason why I thought about the topic is the arrival of June’s newsletter from the Action For Happiness group in England.  They included a graphic (click here to download) with some wonderful ideas for bringing joy into your life and the lives of others during June.  I thought I would share it with you.  If you are up to it, find something that you can share with everyone in your world.

Smile.  Hug someone you love.  Lift your face up to the sun.  Find happiness again.

Many blessings and lots of cyber hugs!